Chinese Lives

A man came up to complain his wife gave up her decent job and stayed home which wasted her Master degree qualification. Her job was at a local government subordinate company, good welfare and average salary, though she may feel bored to do very easy work every single day, plus she was not comfortable to deal with complext relationships between colleagues.

I can see the man loves his wife and tolerate her request for now. Why women have to work? In feudal times, women’s workplace is home; it is only in modern times, a family needs both husband and wife work to run family’s finance. If women stay home, kids can have more attention and care; husband can have clean home, warm dinner after a day’s hard work. A lot of benefits. Maybe less traffic jam, less waste of oil and less carbon footprint, since less women join the morning and evening rush hour.

Frankly, very few Chinese men would let his wives stay home forever. If so, very likely, this woman is poorly treated mentally, for instances, taking blames or fists when husband fails his job; or her family has intrusion from other woman. A lot of families, calculate each member’s economic value, and treat each other accordingly. For instance, if wife earns bigger salary, she makes the rules, and her mother-in-law will try to like her.

Some men who want wives to work, claim work makes women confident, not isolated and confined at home and contribute to family.

Women who have Master’s degree or higher, hope to marry a rich, competent and kind man, so as to stay home and enjoy life. Many responders criticised this though as a failure of our education industry.