Chinese Lives

Should we split the bill? That’s the question puzzles a 30some man, whose girlfriend never spent a penny during 3 months they date, while he has shed 30,000 Yuan for 3 months’ dating expenses.  Those expenses include weekends’ outings for cinema, restaurants, day travel by car and a lot gifts for her, such as fashion clothes.     He is deeply puzzled that whether she does not feel for him so that not buy him anything, or she is one of those stingy girls who guard their own money from men. Certainly he won’t have a stingy material girl as his wife. Therefore, until now, their relationship remains only kissing stage without sex, because he won’t do that if not marry her in the end.

In a traditional concept, woman should know save money and balance expenses for a family, so that most Chinese men prefer a mild traditional wife, to stingy selfish material one. Take the girlfriend as an example, if she matches the standards, she should not let her boyfriend spend that much on weekends luxury activities that often. Instead, she could have suggest cook meal together at home, watch television and visit shopping mall less.

The focus is on who should pay? On first 3 dates, it is not a problem for men to pay all. But after they are in a relationship, men will feel financial burden and not so willingly, since both are earning a pretty good salary, and women are also supposed to contribute some.

To this poor man’s cry, many surfers post opinions. Majority of them think that 80something girls are a group of material selfish people, who only care themselves, and connect how much they are loved with how much money are spent on them. So, you can have fun with them, but not marry them, because they are not reliable.

Some tradition girl type post to support material girlfriend, saying that man never changes his mind not to dump you, even if you saved money and cared every minute thing for him. Therefore, love me and spend money on me, is a golden rule, since when break up, girls can be hurt less.

Original Chinese article:
http://cache.tianya.cn/publicforum/content/feeling/1/821987.shtml