Sterile husband

October 22nd, 2007 · No Comments

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This is a story about sterile husband and non-giving-up but disappointed wife.

I was married to him 4 years ago. we had a full health check before we planned for baby, and the result that he was sterile put us in more stress.

My husband was not good at his sex performance. We had sex twice a month, and average time was less than two minutes. He lost job lately, and started balding only aged 30. He was deeply stressed, partly because of sterility, and partly from his family’s great expectation on him. Because he had done great as student, his family expected him to bring in more money.

We were living on my salary, while he was jobless. Even though we were tight on income, I never thought about giving up on him. We saw many doctors and tried numerous prescriptions. After spending 20,000 Yuan on medicine, we had to accept the sentence. Then, my husband sunk into very low spirit. He stopped communication, and we were like strangers living under same roof.

His family were not nice people as mine. They were rough and too practical. Since they knew their son was sterile, my mother-in-law implied to me that they wouldn’t blame me if I got pregnant from outside marriage.

I lived desperate and painful. How I wished my husband could be same caring and close as before. Last month, I suggest devoice. He begged me to change mind at the last minute. But marriage was tasteless to either of us. So why we bother to keep it? I wouldn’t care his sterility if he could just love me as before. I just couldn’t accept that he totally changed.

Opinions from others:

1. Your husband still loved you, but his inability humilated himself, which make him can’t face your marriage. If you are a good woman, I wish you could be happy couples. But sexless marriage is too cruel for anyone.

2. I suggest you give him some time to build up his confidence in life. If your effort is fruitless, then get a new life.

3. The main problems are two: your husband is sterile and he is not competitive in jobs. I think the latter problem matters more, because not all couple are keen on having a baby, but almost every couple care about expense and income.

4. Women are practical and materialistic. They have many excuses to dump poor or unsuccessful men. But aren’t marriage is to support each other for better or worse?

5. You can have only one life, so make your own choice and never regret.